For a lot of parents, getting the family fed is hard enough, so when it comes to dinner parties our effort levels aren’t what they once were.
But for some people, being an impressive host remains a source of pride. Now, one post has mums everywhere divided – is this a genius organising technique or is it just a bit much?
“A colleague of mine keeps a notebook in her kitchen drawer, specifically to note down details of what she has served to guests. Eg Sept 2018, Bob and Jill for dinner, lasagne then cheesecake,” shared a woman on Mumsnet.
“This is so she doesn’t serve the same people the same thing the next time they come for dinner. AIBU not to do this? Am I a bad host for not caring about these details? I would never think to ensure I offer a different meal next time. Does she have too much time on her hands?”
Way too much
“I can imagine Monica in friends has this in her drawer,” quipped one mum.
“My mother used to do this, she cared very very very much what other people thought of her. Not just what she’d made them, but what she’d had at theirs and, who else was present… I cannot bring myself to locate sufficient f*cks for this. People get sufficient food, that is tasty. That’s enough for me!” Wrote another.
“come to mine for dinner and there’s a very good chance you’re getting a pasta bake. Plus lots of red wine. Haven’t had any complaints.”
Or a good idea?
But there were definitely plenty of people who saw the benefit of the simple list.
“I think certain dishes lend themselves to a certain starter or dessert, I tend to cook a whole menu together rather than mix and match dishes. That means if I repeat something, it is even more noticeable as guests are getting a whole three-course menu repeated rather than just one course so I try not to do that,” explained one mum.
“I do this. Its great not having to start planning from scratch, I can just look through what I did before. I can even re-use whole menus on different groups of people,” agreed another.
Etiquette from a different time
A lot of people noted that this is something their mothers did and had passed on to them.
“My mother does this, with notes of how much they liked it, or any passing comments made about likes/dislikes of food in general. Even has our visits in. Wonder if it’s something that was taught to girls around etiquette and hosting, my mother is in her 70’s.”
What do you think? Clever hosting? Or just a bit extra?