Why Judge People?

As family, friends or colleagues, we expect people around us to share their thoughts and feelings with us. But, sometimes, when they are upset or they make a mistake, they do not share it with us. They fear that we will become judgemental about them, reject them and react impulsively. So, instead of talking to their loved ones, people today prefer to confide in counsellors who are non-judgemental. Now, see how you comfort people, being a counsellor to them, by being non-judgemental.

Affirmation: ‘I am a ‘loveful’ being. I am compassionate towards everyone. I adjust…. I accept every one as they are. I radiate love and acceptance unconditionally…irrespective of who they are and how they behave…. I understand that people I meet today will have different nature and qualities. Someone can be emotionally disturbed,…or someone could be in a dilemma.

When they talk to me…as a family member, friend, colleague,… I internally withdraw and watch the quality of my thoughts and feelings towards them…. I play the role of a counsellor,…a facilitator who empathises with them.

My acceptance radiates positive energy. My acceptance helps me get their acceptance…. They feel comfortable talking to me…. I listen to them attentively,…caringly. I advise, instruct or discipline… with love and respect.’

Repeat this affirmation a few times not to be judgemental. With that, you accept them as they are and build strong relationships. You will also not hold them responsible for your emotions.